Information And Resources For Parents
Bedwetting (nocturnal enuresis) can be worrying and frustrating, but it's common for children to accidentally wet the bed during the night. Whilst the problem can resolve in time, some children/young people require additional help and support. If your child is 5 years or older, contact your local school nursing team for advice and support.
Bedwetting - Hints and Tips for Parents
- Encourage your child to drink regularly throughout the day. It is important that they recognise the feeling of a full bladder.
- Avoid fizzy drinks and blackcurrant. Also drinks that contain caffeine, such as tea, coffee and hot chocolate. These irritate the bladder and make it more active. Pure orange juice does this too.
- Ensure that your child has plenty of fruit, vegetables, and cereals. This will help to avoid constipation which can contribute to bedwetting.
- Ensure that your child goes to the toilet before going to bed.
- Your child may be happier with a small night light to ensure that they can easily get to the toilet. Make sure that the mattress and bed are adequately protected. Swap the duvet for a warm fleece which can be washed and dried in no time.
- Allow your child to help with changing the bed and night clothes. It does help if they are actively involved in overcoming the problem.
- Make sure that your child has a bath or shower each morning. This removes the smell of stale urine and avoids them being teased at school.
- Stay calm and try not to worry.
- Remember, bedwetting is neither the child’s fault nor the parents. Patience, love and encouragement will go a long way to resolving the problem for everyone in the family.
- Encourage your child to come out of nappies, a bed mat under the sheet will absorb most of it but still ensure they are aware of the dampness.
- Do not use waking the child as a long term strategy to overcoming bedwetting.
- Remember that bedwetting is not your child’s fault, or yours.
Constipation means that you are not doing enough poos – you need to do at least 3 poos a week or that your poo had become hard which makes it difficult to come out. We don’t always know why it happens but we do know what makes poo hard:
- Not eating enough vegetables and fruit
- Not drinking enough
- Not sitting on the toilet for long enough
- Putting off going to the toilet when we need to poo
Soiling means the uncontrolled passing of poo which is either liquid or solid. Soiling usually happens during the day when the child is awake and active. Although parents may find soiling frustrating, it is not thought to be caused by a child misbehaving. Soiling is often linked to constipation.
Promoting emotional well-being and positive mental health is important because it can impact on a child or young person’s day to day functioning at home and at school, their relationships with others, and can affect their physical health.
“Just as people’s bodies can become unwell, people’s minds can become unwell too. Emotional health problems are more common than you might think - three children in every classroom has an emotional health problem” Young Minds 2012
Sometimes when a child or young person is worried or has a problem it can be difficult to know what to do. They may find it hard to know why they feel sad, worried or confused, or to know where to turn to.
The school nurse can provide first level support for child and adolescent emotional health issues and can refer on as necessary.
5 Steps to mental wellbeing (NHS Choices)
Tips on helping your child deal with exam stress (NHS Choices)
Bullying (NHS Choices)
Cyber bullying (NHS Choices)
Advice if you're struggling with your child's behaviour (NHS Choices)
Helping your child deal with anger issues (NHS Choices)
Loss and bereavement
Children and bereavement (NHS Choices)
Dealing with loss (NHS Choices)
Advice on talking to children (NHS Chcoies)
- The Family Information Network Directory
- Asthma UK
- ADHD North West
- Enuresis Support (ERIC)
- Lancashire LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender)
- Change for Life
- Young Minds
- Talk to Frank
- Child Sexual Exploitation
- Lancashire Care Contraception and Sexual Health (CaSH) Services
- Quit Squad
- Child Sexual Exploitation
- Eczema – The National Eczema Society
- NSPCC – Female Genital Mutilation (FGM)
- Young Carers – The Childrens’ Society
- Bullying UK